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(GENTLE MUSIC)

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ANNA: In the beginning
when I was first convicted,

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I felt like Alice In Wonderland.

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Down the rabbit hole
in this strange place

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that doesn't follow any rules that
I'm used to or anything like that.

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(SHUTTER CLICKING)

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When I came out, I remember
I went to my hairstylist, and...

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(SIGHS) ..I gave a big sigh,

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and I said, "OK, you're gonna be
my first experience

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with experimenting
with how much I say or don't say

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about where I've been
the past couple of years,"

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and where I've been is -
I was in prison.

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(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

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My inclination,

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you know, here I am
sitting here doing this, is...

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you know, I don't mind
people knowing because...

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you know,
I'm not guilty of a crime, so...

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(MUSIC CONTINUES)

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(DISTANT SIRENS WAIL)

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(GENTLE MUSIC)

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DAISY: Derrick, let's go.

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(SNORING)
Are you ready to get up?

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(GROANING)

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Good morning.

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Come on.

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Come on.

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JOHN: I remember when they brought
Derrick home from the hospital.

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And I was just disappointed.
I was like, "I got a baby brother.
I wanted a little sister."

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And then when they brought him
in the house, and I saw him,

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it was like an instant connection.

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Everything was fine, you know.
Nothing out of the ordinary.

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I just remember that a certain point
he became very listless,

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he didn't move much.

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He wouldn't wake up.
You know, he slept all the time.

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He wasn't doing
what he was supposed to do.

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Like he wasn't sucking,
he wasn't holding his bottle.

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And he couldn't hold his head.

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I would ask the doctor,
"Well, what's wrong with Derrick?"

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And he said, "Oh, you're comparing
him to your older son.

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He'll be alright."

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And I says,
"No, something's not right."

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(MUFFLED COUGHING)

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Early on,
Derrick had a series of seizures.

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So then they took Derrick,
they put him in a sound room.

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And they would do the lights
for his eyes to follow, and...

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he just wouldn't react,

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or couldn't.

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And that's when they told me
that he has cerebral palsy,

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mm-hm, and he would never, you know,

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be able to...

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..do as normal children would do.

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Mm-hm.

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Derrick visited a few psychologists.

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They deemed him, as the term
they used, mentally retarded,

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non-verbal with cerebral palsy.

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You know, then not knowing
what the heck that meant,

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it just meant Derrick can't walk,
Derrick can't talk.

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(BACKGROUND CHATTER ON TV)
Yes.

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It's all gone.

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It's all gone. You're done.

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You're done, mm-hm.

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OK.

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Take your hands out your ears.
What you want?

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What's the problem?

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Hm?

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You know the routine.

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One finger.
What's that? Shh. You signing me?

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Hm?

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(GENTLE MUSIC)

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Eventually, the seizures
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but what his cognitive level was,

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I didn't have
a way of assessing that.

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I know that he was listless
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and then all of a sudden
there was an awakening of sorts,

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where he was in the world.

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(UPBEAT MUSIC)

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Whenever we would lock eyes,
like, there was recognition there.

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I just began to see Derrick,

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you know,
develop his own personality

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and kind of come into his own.

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Oh! They were inseparable.

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Derrick would come home
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John would run home,

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meet Derrick's bus,

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get Derrick in the house, call me,
"Ma, we in the house."

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At a certain point,
I just threw him on my back.

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Play together,
get into mischief together.

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You know, wherever I go,
Derrick has to go.

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Derrick's a character.
You know, he loves to give hugs.

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He just loves to smile a lot,
you know.

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You know when he's happy.

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He used to do, we called it,
"the Stevie Wonder dance".

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You know, when Stevie Wonder
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and really feeling the music, and
his head would sway side to side.

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And so Derrick would do
that from time to time too,

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especially in church when he's,
like, really feeling the music.

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(HUMMING)

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Sometimes he's self-abusive.
We can be somewhere,

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and then all of a sudden, "Ah,"
he'll put his hand in his mouth

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and start banging his head
and his knee.

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And I don't know why.
Maybe he's frustrated, um...

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but he can't communicate.

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So what is going on
in your head, Derrick?

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Like I really...

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to me that was the great mystery.

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(WATER PATTERING)

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(CAR ENGINE WHIRRING)

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NICK: Camera's rolling.
ANNA: OK. Everything's fine.

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Tell me the story of how you met.

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I'm pretty sure,

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or at least,
I'm hopeful that I haven't...

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been rewriting things in my head.

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I don't... didn't wanna do that.

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You know, I see
how easily it can happen.

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(UPBEAT MUSIC)

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(INDISTINCT CHATTER)

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(BIRDS CHIRPING)

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PRESENTER: (ON VIDEO) Our next
speaker is Anna Stubblefield,

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the Director of the
Philosophy Department at Rutgers.

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Thanks, David, is that one working?

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This one? (MICROPHONE FEEDBACK)
How's this one?

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Ah, that's better. OK.

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'I was teaching

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in the American Studies doctoral
programme at Rutgers Newark.'

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Race, class, gender,
and sexual orientation and disability

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are inextricably intertwined,

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such that none of these concepts

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would exist as it does
without the others.

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'And John was one of my students.'

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JOHN: When I was doing
my PhD at Rutgers...

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When a person cannot understand...

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..Anna Stubblefield
was a philosopher of race...

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..and also had a class
about disability studies.

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Alongside theorising
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I also provide support

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to people labelled
with developmental disabilities.

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I work with people
who cannot communicate vocally

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to provide them with access

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to alternative forms
of verbal expression and to literacy.

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You know, while I grew up
with a disabled brother,

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I was not familiar
with disability studies.

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And I think, as an instructor,
she was great.

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And as a scholar,
she was great as well.

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The course was looking at the notion

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of intelligence as a concept.

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For example, the notion that
if somebody can't speak, it must be

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because they're too stupid, and
there's just nothing in their head.

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That just is not the case.

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It's not the case.

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Lacking speech doesn't mean
that you don't have anything to say.

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It doesn't mean
that you can't use language.

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If somebody can just get you
access to a way to do it.

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(PENSIVE MUSIC ON VIDEO)

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INTERVIEWER: Can you describe
what your world was like

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before you were able to communicate?

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Can you describe that for me?

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Somewhere along the course,
we ended up watching this video.

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(SPEAKER VOCALISING ON VIDEO)

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The person who was in the video
had autism.

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Want to go to Grandma.
You want to go to Grandma's?

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Want to go to Grandma.
Yeah, Grandma is gonna come here...

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Sue Rubin,

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she's somebody who's perceived
by her parents and everybody

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as severely intellectually impaired
and just not there.

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(VOCALISES) Yeah.
Yeah.

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But then she's given access
to a way to communicate.

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COMPUTER VOICE: "When I was 13,
my mother said she had seen someone

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start to communicate
using a keyboard and support.

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It's called
facilitated communication.

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As I began to type,
my mind began to wake up."

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Bye-bye.
'The person who was in the video'

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used a keyboard and
eventually became proficient enough

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to communicate
the complexities of her life.

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She was able
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and she graduated with a dual major,
etcetera, etcetera.

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And this was her story.

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WOMAN: "I think I was lost." W-A.

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"In some way.

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I... acted like my worst nightmare."

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Y-E.

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"Yes."

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At that time,
I had never heard anything

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about this
facilitated communication.

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(DOOR OPENS)

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After that class, John, he said,

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"This woman in this film
reminds me a lot of my brother.

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How she moves, how she looks,
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I see her typing,
and she's going to college,

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and we've always been told

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that my brother, you know, basically,
he should be institutionalised.

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But we've always felt that maybe

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there's something more
going on there."

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We recognised
that Derrick had a disability.

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But we never thought
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of doing any number of things.

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I always knew
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Like right on cue,
at certain points,

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Derrick would say, "Uh, uh, uh," you
know, Derrick was paying attention.

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Derrick wanted to weigh in
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(CLIPPER BUZZING)
'When we would go to get haircuts,'

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I would sit there
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And Derrick would be sitting
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Derrick would look over my shoulder
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And was it a mimicking behaviour?
Maybe.

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But he has this way of...

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appearing to be
absorbing information.

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And so there were dozens

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of these kinds of moments
through our lifetime.

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(CHATTER ON TV)

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I love my brother to death,

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and I always want nothing
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And so I asked her,
"I would love to hear more

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about facilitated communication.
Who can I talk to?"

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(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

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I told him the nearest place
on the East Coast

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where there's support
for facilitated communication

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is Syracuse University.

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But it's gonna be too expensive.

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So I said to John,

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"If you wanted,

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I could at least just kind of...

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do some initial stuff,
kind of see if it's working."

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DAISY: She was Miss Anna.

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You know, she could do great things.

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She was gonna move mountains, and...

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I... accepted her at her word.

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(WIND CHIMES RING GENTLY)
(BIRDS CHIRPING)

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(GENTLE MUSIC)

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ANNA: When I was a child,
I came from an unusual family.

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My mom did work with people

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with a range
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with intellectual disabilities,
who came to the house.

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My mom had a T-shirt
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"Labels are for jars, not people."

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I found disability interesting

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because of that exposure.

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And so I got my dad to, you know,
build me a pair of crutches

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so I could, you know,
pretend to be post-polio,

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or have cerebral palsy,
or something like that.

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I'd tie a blindfold on
and spend all afternoon...

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SANDI: During her elementary years,

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I taught her how to write Braille.

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At her request,
I got her a blind pen pal.

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She was interested in sign language,

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and I think she may have learned
some of that.

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I was fascinated
by the way in which,

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you know,
it's not really the impairment,

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it's the environment

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that creates impairments for people.

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Growing up, I got that message
very powerfully, how in our society,

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it's like we want everybody
to walk through the same-size door.

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And if you don't fit in that door,
there's something wrong with you,

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and that doesn't have to be that way.

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(CROWD CHATTERING)

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Welcome to the 1993 Conference

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on Facilitated Communication
in Syracuse sponsored by...

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the Facilitated Communication
Institute at Syracuse University.

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I learned
about facilitated communication

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in December of 1990 at a conference.

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Rosemary Crossley reported
on the work she'd done in Australia.

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(FOOTSTEPS APPROACHING)

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ROSEMARY: I had done some work

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with a girl named Anne McDonald

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who had athetoid cerebral palsy.

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Couldn't move her hands.

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Couldn't speak. There was nothing.

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We had a spelling board,

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but because she had cerebral palsy,

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her hands would move so much

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that she couldn't
actually hit a target.

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I tried what would happen

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if I supported her, um...

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under her upper arm.

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She could then move from the elbow

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and do better in selecting items.

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And it turned out
that she could spell.

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She was VERY smart.

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We gave her the page-turner

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so that every time she hit a button,

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the page would turn,

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and suddenly she could read books.

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As soon as I heard
their presentation,

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I knew that's what I needed.

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This is how to help all these kids
who I used to work with.

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ANNA: My mother's one
of the first people in the country

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who started doing training workshops
in facilitated communication.

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When she came back
and started using it,

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she was videotaping everybody,

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and I ended up being
the one who ran the camera.

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So I was there
when she first started using it.

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I was part of that moment.

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To see people for the first time

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be able to type out something.

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Being part of that was,
you know... was amazing.

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We find that once
we open this world for the kids,

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they are social now,
they are appropriate.

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They do have language.
They do understand.

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MAN: I couldn't believe
what I was seeing.

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Cherise has typed 120 poems,
nine short stories.

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She talks about everything she feels.
(VOCALISES)

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We understood that people knew

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what it was
they wanted to communicate.

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And we needed
to just provide some means

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to make that possible physically.

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(WIND SOUGHING GENTLY)

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(BIRDS CHIRPING)

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ANNA: When I met Derrick,
I'd been told he had cerebral palsy,

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and that was all.

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He walks. He needs
to hold onto somebody's arm,

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have a little support.

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He can focus his gaze,

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but his eyes kind of go off,
his head turns.

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If you're not used to that,

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we see that as signs
of lack of intelligence.

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I've seen enough people
like that in my life

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to know that that's simply not true.

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So I don't register things that way.

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(GENTLE MUSIC)

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So I had just cut out
some pictures from magazines

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or drawn some pictures.

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John and Daisy
were in the room watching.

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And I said to Derrick,

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"I'm gonna ask you some questions,

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and I'm not asking them

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because I don't think
you're smart enough or anything.

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I just want to see what happens
when you try to point to something."

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So I watched and he...

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would kind of start moving his arm.
It would go a little ways.

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And then he'd have
this kind of muscle jerk reaction,

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which turned out to be very typical.

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You can see how hard he works

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to try to have the least
little bit of control over his arm,

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and it's slow.

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If you've got cerebral palsy,
you might be able to get your hand

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to something you're pointing at,
but it might take you a minute.

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How do you have
a conversation like that?

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So I had started with
just a little support on his elbow.

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And that was it initially,
that freed him up enough,

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and then he could select
which picture he wanted.

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So, so far, so good.

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Then I said,
"Now what I want to do is

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see where you're at with literacy."

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So I had cards
that just had letters on them,

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kind of like doing Boggle,

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so if you have A, B, C, and T,

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you can spell cat,
you can spell bat.

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And when I asked him to spell
as many words as he could

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using these four letters, he made
a very good showing with that.

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But it's one thing
to reach your whole hand

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toward a very large target.

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It's an entirely different thing

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to get one finger pushing a key.

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So I had this small, very
lightweight, portable keyboard

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with a small LED display
called the Neo.

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I ended up where I was keeping
his fingers folded down

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so that his index finger
was isolated.

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And the first thing I asked him to do

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was point to the letter H,
the letter T.

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And he started making mistakes.

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So he mixed up the A and the H,

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and he mixed up the T and the F,

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and the U and the V.

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What I realised was that
the alphabetical-order letter board

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that I'd set up
were all lowercase letters

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and on the Neo is capital letters.

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And so the difference
between the A and the H

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was one little line
across the top of the A,

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that sort of thing.

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When he was making those mistakes,
I just said, "No, no, you're wrong.

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I asked for the A, you hit the H.
Here's the A here."

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And then I went through some other
letters, and then I would go back.

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He didn't make
the same mistake twice.

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So he was a really fast learner.

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Tell him once, he's got it.

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(PROMISING MUSIC)

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DAISY: It was like
the porch lights went on.

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And I was like,
"Wow, is he doing it?"

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And I felt very excited about it.

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She said, "Don't forget
you're travelling with him,

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you're taking him places...

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..and when you're taking him,

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he's reading the signs."

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And, you know, I'm mama...

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..tell me what my sons can do.

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JOHN: I was elated. I mean, I always
knew that there was something there.

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And so in a way,

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it somewhat confirmed
what I'd already knew.

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In the school that he attended, the
Essex County Day Training Programme,

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they had did
some remarkable things with him.

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They were able to get him
to the point where he can,

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you know, walk on his own.

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But there was this question
of intellectual capacity.

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And so to have this revelation

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that Derrick can do these things,
it was just like, "Wow."

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I knew it was there,
and I'm just happy for him.

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(DISTANT SIRENS WAIL)

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(WIND SOUGHING GENTLY)
(BIRDS CHIRPING)

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One day when Derrick came,
and I just asked him,

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"Did you do anything
particularly interesting this week?"

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And he typed "GM".

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His spelling was very, very creative
in the beginning.

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And I said,
"Hm, you know, did you play a game?

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Was there some kind of game?" No.

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"Gym, did you go to the gym?" Yes.

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And then Daisy popped in with,

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"Oh, yeah, his day programme
had gone to a health club,

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and he had walked on a treadmill,
and he'd really enjoyed that."

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At that point,
Daisy had stepped outside the room.

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(DOOR CLOSES)

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I said, "You know,
it's occurring to me

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that I never actually asked you
what you like to be called.

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Your brother told me
your name was Derrick,
and I've been calling you, Derrick.

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Tell me what do you want me
to call you?"

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And he typed D-M-A-N.

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I was looking at that, and it didn't
look like any name that I recognised.

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Daisy came back in the room
at that point,

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and I said, "He typed D-M-A-N.

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Does that mean anything to you?
Does..."

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She said, "Oh! He had
this really great teacher,

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back when he was about 13 years old,
who used to call him DMan.

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That was the teacher
who got him out of the wheelchair

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and got him walking."

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So I said, "Is she right?"

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And he said, "Yes."

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So I called him DMan from there.

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That was a really important moment.

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Being able to tell people
what you wanna be called

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is this important,
emotional aspect of life

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that we take away from people
when they can't speak.

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(INDISTINCT CHATTER)

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DMan and I saw each other
several hours a week.

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And over the course of the year,
as he speeded up,

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as his spelling
got a little better...

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..it went
from a couple-word answers...

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..to five-word answers...

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..to a whole sentence,
to a couple sentences.

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So by the end of a year,

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we could really have
a decent conversation.

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And he could then be more expressive

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and more detailed
about what he had to say.

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And that was...
that was real progress. That's huge.

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I didn't really feel like
I was getting to know him as a person

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until he got to that stage.

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(CLOCK TICKING)
(MUFFLED CHATTER ON TV)

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(CUCKOO CLOCK CHIRPS)

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Somewhat early on,
Anna started saying

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Derrick had the intellectual
capacity to do high-level work

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and to put sentences together
and do all these different things.

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I was like, "Woah, this is great."

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She told us, "Because Derrick was
hanging around you all for so long

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and listened to your conversations,
and you went to movies,

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and you would watch TV,

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and so he's absorbing
all of these things,

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and so that's how
he built his body of knowledge."

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Without, you know, going
through a peer-reviewed... (LAUGHS)

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..assessment of those assertions,
I was like, "OK, I buy that, cool."

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(GENTLE MUSIC)
(INDISTINCT CHATTER)

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One of the things
that really bothered him was

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that he hadn't had the opportunity

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to get a formal education
of any sort.

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His brother was getting
a doctoral degree,

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so he had watched his brother
and the whole process,

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and he really, really, really
wanted to have that also.

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So there was a course

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being offered on Saturday mornings
at Rutgers Newark.

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It was an African American
literature course,

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and that looked
really interesting to him.

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I guess the idea was for Derrick
to go to a class,

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possibly write papers,
or at least be able to show the work

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that may put him in line
to then go on and pursue a BA.

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I was getting towards the end
of my PhD programme,

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and so... you know,
this kind of thing, you know,

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Black scholar. My baby brother,
who was developmentally disabled,

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was gonna be a Black... could be
a Black scholar. I felt great.

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I sat in the class with him

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and provided
communication support for class.

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We ended up finding him a student

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who would facilitate DMan
for doing part of the homework.

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Her name was Sheronda Jones.

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Sheronda met with him
outside of class

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for several hours a week
so he could read the book

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and then at least take a crack
at writing the essay.

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She had never taken this class.

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She never read the books.
She just provided the support.

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He wasn't doing 400-level writing...

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..but he was correctly identifying
characters and plot elements.

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He clearly had read the book
and understood the book.

493
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:04,240
MAN: (ON VIDEO) From 1619,

494
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:07,400
when 20 of us were sold
by a Dutch ship to the English...

495
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:10,080
ANNA: One day in class,
the professor started it out

496
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:15,320
by showing a film
on the entire African diaspora.

497
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:20,320
And DMan wrote something.

498
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,000
He wasn't expressing himself

499
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:28,159
as articulately
as I knew he was capable of,

500
00:34:28,199 --> 00:34:30,520
and I was typing back to him
because we were in class.

501
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,199
So I typed back,

502
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,840
"What if you said it this way,
wouldn't this be better?"

503
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:40,520
And he typed,
"I know what you're saying,

504
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,760
but just read it the way I wrote it."
And I said, "OK, fair enough."

505
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,239
And then we got called on
right at that point.

506
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:51,800
I couldn't resist. I was
sort of editing slightly as I read,

507
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,679
which all it did was make it worse.

508
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,640
Screwed up the whole thing,
but I got to the end,

509
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:00,200
and the discussion went on.

510
00:35:00,240 --> 00:35:02,160
He typed,

511
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:06,720
"Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever
do that again."

512
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,160
I can tell DMan's mad. (LAUGHS)

513
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:12,920
This was DMan furious.

514
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,840
And I typed back, "I'm so sorry."

515
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:19,400
And he said, "I'm not mad,
but don't ever do that again."

516
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:23,320
Because, you know, I did speak
for him and that was wrong.

517
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,720
Needless to say,
I never did it before,

518
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:28,720
and I never did it since.

519
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:31,160
But he was pissed.

520
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,560
(WIND CHIMES RING GENTLY)
(BIRDS CHIRPING)

521
00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:46,760
(MUG CLINKS)

522
00:35:57,600 --> 00:35:58,880
(MUG THUDS)

523
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,160
(PENSIVE MUSIC)

524
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:18,640
(CAR DOOR CLOSES)

525
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:21,640
About a year after
DMan started typing,

526
00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:25,520
my mother was organising
this panel with other FC users

527
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:28,920
for the Society
For Disability Studies Conference,

528
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,600
and she asked if he wanted
to be part of the panel.

529
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:37,640
I like to arrange conferences

530
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:40,280
that people with disabilities

531
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,600
can actually do some presenting.

532
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:44,640
(INDISTINCT CHATTER)

533
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:49,200
JOHN: What I had noticed was
that, in terms of the FC community,

534
00:37:49,240 --> 00:37:51,800
Derrick was the only
African American, and saw this

535
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,080
as a very white space,
and in a way, Derrick was a...

536
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,240
..a pathbreaker, a trailblazer.

537
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:00,520
The Jackie Robinson of FC.

538
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:06,000
The panel was on
the right to communication clause

539
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:09,640
in the UN Convention
on Disability Rights.

540
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:13,520
But I said to him, "Don't worry about
the official topic of the panel.

541
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:16,920
Just write something
about the right to communicate,

542
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:19,000
or what it means to you
to be able to communicate.

543
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:21,760
(PAGE TURNS)

544
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,640
He wanted to be able
to refer to some of the literature.

545
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:27,960
I was getting books for him.
Steven Pinker, who's a neurologist,

546
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,640
who's written about language
being very hardwired.

547
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:33,160
I got him some Piaget.

548
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,680
It wasn't much,
but it was to give him a taste.

549
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:40,720
So he was reading the books,
we were talking about things.

550
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,560
What he wrote for the panel

551
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,960
was very impressive to me.

552
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,240
It was less than a page,

553
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:50,920
but he had a choice of words,

554
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,640
a way of phrasing things.
It really struck me.

555
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:06,840
I just became more and more aware
that, you know, this was a man

556
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:10,560
who was very... insightful
and very thoughtful.

557
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,480
He spent a lot of time
sitting around,

558
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:15,280
and he was sitting around thinking,

559
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,600
and give him some ideas
and something to work with,

560
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:22,800
and he was just digging in
and seeing stuff.

561
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:27,880
That is what I... I mean,
that's what I like in my friends.

562
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:30,440
That's honestly what I like in men.

563
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:36,080
You know, I'm the kind of
nerdy, intellectual girl

564
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,680
who wants a nerdy, intellectual guy.

565
00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:45,320
You know, you find you really enjoy
talking to them, and...

566
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:46,760
you know, you share tastes,

567
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,560
but you also disagree on things,
but you learn from it.

568
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:51,920
I mean, we were just having
those kinds of experiences.

569
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:56,960
But, you know, I was married.
My marriage wasn't terrific,

570
00:39:57,000 --> 00:40:01,120
but I wasn't in any way thinking
about going outside the relationship.

571
00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:03,600
I wasn't shopping around.
It was nothing like that.

572
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:05,760
At the time,

573
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,600
if you'd asked me, you know,
"How do you feel about DMan?"

574
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:10,640
It's, you know, "He's my friend."

575
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,920
I just really, really liked him,
and I really, really
enjoyed his company,

576
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:27,640
and I was really impressed by him.

577
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,400
(GENTLE MUSIC)
(WIND SOUGHING, BIRDS CHIRPING)

578
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:42,080
(INDISTINCT CHATTER)

579
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:47,320
In March of 2011,

580
00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:50,320
I invited DMan to speak
to an undergraduate class

581
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:53,440
where we were talking
about disability issues.

582
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:55,360
So students
were asking him questions,

583
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,320
and somebody asked him about, you
know, what his hopes and dreams were.

584
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:00,320
And he talked about going to college

585
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,560
and maybe being a writer someday,

586
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:04,800
which was kind of where
he was heading.

587
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:09,440
And then somebody else
in the class said to him,

588
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,480
you know, what about love?
What about relationships?

589
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:14,920
Is that something that you hope for?

590
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,720
And he typed,
"I want that more than anything,

591
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:24,640
but that doesn't happen for people
with disabilities like mine."

592
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:29,360
And...

593
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:31,400
in that moment...

594
00:41:32,240 --> 00:41:34,200
I mean, what I wanted to say was...

595
00:41:34,240 --> 00:41:36,560
I-I almost... (STAMMERS)

596
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:39,920
..you know, y-y-you know,
you can have that with me.

597
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:46,760
(EXHALES)

598
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:51,320
I started thinking about, "OK, well,
wow, if this is the way I'm feeling,

599
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,200
OK, I've gotta think about this."

600
00:41:53,240 --> 00:41:55,760
And I didn't... I still didn't
wanna say anything to him.

601
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:58,160
I was like, "Look, I've gotta
figure this out." I mean...

602
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:01,040
I had my husband and my kids.

603
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:06,640
I-I... OK, I'm in love with DMan.
I realise this now, but...

604
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:10,320
I'm not gonna say anything. I have to
sort all of this out. It was awkward.

605
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:13,080
(WIND SOUGHS GENTLY)

606
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,920
Then I saw him about a week later,

607
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,320
and I found myself saying

608
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:21,920
that I help the other people that
I do facilitated communication with

609
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,320
because I believe so strongly

610
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:27,200
that everyone has
a right to communication.

611
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:32,880
And then I said, "I do what I do
for you because I love you."

612
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,120
And he typed,

613
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:37,160
he said, "I know.

614
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,200
I love you too."

615
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:42,200
And I said, "I know."

616
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,480
He asked me to kiss him, and I did.

617
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:50,360
And...

618
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:52,200
then he said, "Kiss me again."
(LAUGHS)

619
00:42:52,240 --> 00:42:55,080
And I did, and...

620
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,160
he said, "So now what?"

621
00:42:59,920 --> 00:43:02,160
(KEYBOARD KEY CLICKS)

622
00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:04,360
(KEYBOARD KEY CLICKS)

623
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:08,040
(KEYBOARD KEY CLICKS)

624
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:16,680
(HORN HONKS)

625
00:43:16,720 --> 00:43:20,160
("YOU MUST LIVE RIGHT TO MAKE IT IN"
BY SHIRLEY CAESAR PLAYS)

626
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:26,280
As things went along,

627
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:28,640
Derrick started going
on the speaking circuit,

628
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:30,560
I guess, going
to these conferences and all.

629
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:33,520
And there started
to be some tension.

630
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:36,720
# Can you see it
No, no, no, you can't see it

631
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:38,120
# A man asked me...

632
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,920
They were driving to this event
in suburban Trenton somewhere,

633
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:42,880
and my mom was playing gospel music.

634
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,200
And Anna goes
and turns the station...

635
00:43:47,240 --> 00:43:49,720
(CLASSICAL MUSIC PLAYS)

636
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,200
..and puts on classical music.

637
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:55,720
"He doesn't wanna hear this,
he wants that."

638
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:58,480
She had ejected my gospel music,

639
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:01,800
so I hit it,
and it went back to playing.

640
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:03,680
# ..be right at home... #

641
00:44:03,720 --> 00:44:07,080
Derrick loves gospel. He goes
to church. He hears the music.

642
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:10,920
That assumption that he prefers
the high culture of classical music

643
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:13,680
and not the low culture of gospel,
I mean, it was just...

644
00:44:13,720 --> 00:44:15,880
uh... too much of a leap.

645
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:22,680
(SOFTLY) Slow down.

646
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,760
There were different things,
like one day,

647
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:32,760
when we broke for lunch,

648
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:34,760
I was cutting up his chicken,

649
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,760
and she rolled over
to the table and said,

650
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:41,880
"What are you doing giving him
meat?! He's a vegetarian."

651
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:44,200
I said, "Nobody sent me
any friggin' memo."

652
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:49,080
There was another time she's working
with Derrick on the computer.

653
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:52,280
I said something to the effect
to Derrick jokingly,
"I can't wait till we get home

654
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:55,040
so we can kick... get a beer,
kick back and just relax."

655
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,760
And then on the keyboard,
it said something to the effect of,

656
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:01,800
"Well, I don't like beer.
I like red wine."

657
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:04,440
And I just thought
that to be hella peculiar.

658
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,400
Derrick does not...
He doesn't even like communion wine.

659
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:15,280
If you're in
a "giving care" frame of mind,

660
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:17,400
you don't see the person
you're supporting

661
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:22,360
as somebody who's in a position
to make their own decisions,

662
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,400
who has their own ideas
about how they want things done.

663
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,200
(SOFTLY) OK.

664
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:29,400
(SOFTLY) OK.

665
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:32,400
You wanna give them some control

666
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:36,160
to develop into a person
who has a good sense of themselves.

667
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:37,200
Come on.

668
00:45:37,240 --> 00:45:39,000
So that part is...

669
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:43,480
..a hard adjustment
for parents or teachers

670
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,880
who've been in
a "I'm taking care of you" mode.

671
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:49,000
Turn your feet. Turn your body.

672
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:51,480
Now step off. Thank you.

673
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:29,040
My mom kept telling me
oh, you know, Anna was saying that,

674
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,560
you know, she's too mothering,
she's smothering Derrick,

675
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:35,000
Derrick doesn't want
all of this help from her,

676
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,680
that, you know,
you can't be my mom all the time.

677
00:46:37,720 --> 00:46:41,240
All these different things, that it
seemed to be breaking my mom down.

678
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,840
And... then to add to that,

679
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,760
this idea that, oh, Derrick
now wants to live independently.

680
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:52,400
DMan had wanted to look into a
more independent living arrangement,

681
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:54,000
moving out of his mother's house

682
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:57,040
and moving into
a supported living situation.

683
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:13,600
There was an organisation

684
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:16,800
that was able to provide
supervised housing for Derrick.

685
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:20,720
Derrick would have individuals
looking out for him 24 hours a day.

686
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:24,000
He would take classes.
He would get his degree.

687
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:26,240
As my mom was telling me this,
I thought,

688
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:29,080
"Where's this money gonna come from
for this? It's not gonna be free."

689
00:47:29,120 --> 00:47:31,400
And I just kind of saw that as...

690
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:34,920
"Alright, you're getting
a little too personal here.

691
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:37,840
Now you're looking
into Derrick's support?"

692
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:41,120
'And I just wasn't comfortable
with that.'(PHONE BUZZES)

693
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:43,080
I said, "Anna...

694
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,640
if he's gonna move in a place,
he's gonna move in the basement

695
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:48,240
where John lived
before John got on his own.

696
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:50,080
Derrick is not going anywhere."

697
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:54,040
"You need to cut the apron strings."

698
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,960
I said, "How am I gonna cut
my apron strings

699
00:47:57,000 --> 00:48:00,960
when Derrick cannot walk, talk,
or do anything on his own?"

700
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:04,320
"See, that's where you're wrong.
Derrick can do it.

701
00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:08,920
You're opening up
a whole new world for him.'"

702
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:16,240
The ways in which
she talked to my mom,

703
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:18,680
you know,
not mothering the proper way,

704
00:48:18,720 --> 00:48:21,000
and saying that Derrick
doesn't like this and wants this,

705
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:23,320
or "Daisy, you need
to let him be a MAN."

706
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:26,760
It just kind of rubbed me
the wrong way.

707
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,280
Part of it might be a level
of self-consciousness on my part

708
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:32,720
because I remember growing up
in the late '80s, early '90s, and...

709
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:36,520
you know, when my mom and dad
separated and then divorced,

710
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:39,560
the idea of single parenthood
was resonant.

711
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:42,840
There was all these studies about,

712
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:46,880
you know, "Children of single-parent
households just don't do well".

713
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:48,760
You know, invariably
it was framed around,

714
00:48:48,800 --> 00:48:51,400
you know,
"Black women aren't good parents",

715
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:54,480
"there's things that Black women
can't teach their sons", and...

716
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:56,920
all of that was kind of in my ear.

717
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:00,080
Now, I think
it's important to recognise

718
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,520
that my mom, prior to all of this,
was affiliated

719
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:07,360
with a number of organisations
that were headed by women of colour,

720
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:11,400
who were advocates for
people of colour with disabilities,

721
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:13,440
who otherwise
may have been overlooked.

722
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,480
For Anna to make certain assumptions

723
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:20,800
about my mom's expertise
or her decision-making

724
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:22,560
and those kinds of things,

725
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:25,440
it just has those
racial undertones and overtones.

726
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:27,200
It wasn't like, you know,

727
00:49:27,240 --> 00:49:29,280
"Nigger, get in the back
of the bus" kind of racism.

728
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:31,520
It wasn't that, but it was more like
making assumptions

729
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:35,600
based on the idea certain people
might be inherently... deficient.

730
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:39,720
Anna was just ignoring
the past 30-some-odd years

731
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:43,360
and everything that my mom has done
to get us to this point, right?

732
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:48,720
And so I had it in my mind,

733
00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:50,680
we're gonna have
a long conversation.

734
00:49:50,720 --> 00:49:53,280
We are gonna have to, like,
really set some hard, fast rules,

735
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:56,720
or we may have to just
kind of begin to draw things down.

736
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:04,720
DMan and I had debated
on several occasions

737
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,320
whether we wanted to say anything

738
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:10,520
to Daisy and John
about the change in our relationship.

739
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:13,160
We knew we were gonna
tell them eventually.

740
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:15,080
So it was more just...

741
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:17,280
we were enjoying that...

742
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,960
kind of initial beginning
of a romance

743
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:22,280
when it's very private,
and it's very intimate,

744
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:25,440
and it's just the two of you,
and it changes

745
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:27,280
when you start sharing with family.

746
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:30,560
(CAR DOOR CLOSES)
'But we had started figuring out'

747
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:33,840
ways that we could, you know,
try to spend time together.

748
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,280
And there was the Sunday

749
00:50:37,320 --> 00:50:41,840
DMan and I had made plans
to go to a film festival in New York,

750
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,040
where there was a film being shown

751
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,880
called Wretches And Jabberers,
which was about FC users.

752
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:51,440
(BELLS TOLL) 'Daisy wanted to go
to church that morning.'

753
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:55,000
And in thinking
about locations and stuff

754
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,800
for eventual romantic rendezvous,

755
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:00,120
we definitely didn't want to use,

756
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:02,120
you know, his mother's house.

757
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:05,440
But, you know,
here we are at the house,

758
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:08,880
and she's not there, and...

759
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:11,760
it's difficult for him to kiss,

760
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:16,240
so we wanted to practise.

761
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:20,040
Like anything else,
it was a physical challenge for him.

762
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:22,960
(CLOCK TICKING)
(MUFFLED CHATTER ON TV)

763
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,600
I could tell that he's very tense,

764
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:28,160
and every time he tried to sit back,

765
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:30,200
he would kind of pop up again.

766
00:51:30,240 --> 00:51:32,360
And I said, like,
"Talk to me, you know,

767
00:51:32,400 --> 00:51:35,720
obviously, this is not working
for you. What's going on?"

768
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:37,640
And he typed,

769
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:41,640
"I really, really love being
with you, and I wanna be doing this,

770
00:51:41,680 --> 00:51:45,600
but I'm just really overwhelmed
right now, I need a minute."

771
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:49,400
And I said, you know, "Fine, take
all the time you need, of course."

772
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:55,240
So he excluded himself
down the hallway,

773
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:58,400
and I got a glass of water.
I was just giving him some time.

774
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:01,280
And I said to him, "Look, you know,

775
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:04,920
you're the one where this
is all a brand-new thing for you.

776
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:07,440
You've gotta call the shots.
You've gotta...

777
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:10,560
you know, I don't wanna do anything
that makes you uncomfortable.

778
00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:13,080
I don't wanna push anything faster.

779
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:16,000
I don't know what's gonna work
for your body and what isn't,

780
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:17,440
so you tell me."

781
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:20,800
I was figuring at that point

782
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:23,760
that, like, the moment had passed,
and that was alright.

783
00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:26,640
And...

784
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:28,880
he typed, "May I touch your breasts?"

785
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:32,720
And I was like, "Wow, OK."

786
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:36,320
I didn't know where that was...
That wasn't what I was expecting.

787
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:38,000
OK. (CHUCKLES)

788
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:41,000
And then he typed,

789
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:43,800
"Take your shirt off all the way."

790
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:46,320
I was like, "OK." So I did that.

791
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:49,200
And then he said,
"Take the rest of your clothes off."

792
00:52:49,240 --> 00:52:52,360
And OK, so I did.

793
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:54,840
And, um...

794
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:58,320
then he said,
"You know, I've dreamed about this."

795
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:00,920
It seemed to me
that what he was doing

796
00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:04,400
was taking control of the situation.

797
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:07,000
He was, like, really
ordering me around and... (LAUGHS)

798
00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:11,000
but that was kind of cool because
I wasn't necessarily anticipating

799
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:13,120
that element of the relationship.

800
00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:16,600
He said,

801
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:19,600
"I long to hold you
the way that men do."

802
00:53:21,480 --> 00:53:24,640
I said to him, "Look, I feel held."

803
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:26,360
He...

804
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:28,120
said,

805
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,920
"Do you think that
it would even be possible

806
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:33,880
with my cerebral palsy

807
00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:35,920
for us to make love?"

808
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:39,000
And I said,
"You know, I have no idea,

809
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:42,200
but there's only...
there's only one way to find out."

810
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:52,120
(WIND SOUGHING GENTLY)

811
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:02,520
(CAR ENGINE WHIRRING)

812
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:09,640
We had this meeting
scheduled for Memorial Day for DMan

813
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:13,400
to talk to Daisy and John about
the independent living counsellor.

814
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:16,960
And DMan brought up, or I brought up,
I don't even remember,

815
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:19,520
you know, should we
also use this opportunity

816
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:22,640
to tell them about the change
in our relationship?

817
00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:27,960
But I said to him, "Look, if Daisy
and John did get upset about this

818
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:29,720
and chose to separate us,

819
00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:32,240
technically,
that's a violation of your rights,

820
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:35,920
but it would be very hard
to challenge them on that."

821
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:41,160
'He said to me...'
(DOORBELL RINGS)

822
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:44,400
"They would never do that to me.
They love me too much."

823
00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:50,080
JOHN: We all sit down, and...

824
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:54,080
there just seemed to be
this awkwardness about it, you know?

825
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:56,320
If we're gonna talk business,
let's talk business.

826
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:58,560
But she seemed...
She looked at Derrick and said,

827
00:54:58,600 --> 00:55:00,240
"Do you want me to tell them?"

828
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:02,120
And so...

829
00:55:02,160 --> 00:55:03,840
I'm like, "Tell us what?"

830
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:06,360
And then she grabs Derrick's hand,

831
00:55:06,400 --> 00:55:08,240
and on the keyboard comes up,

832
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:09,560
"We are in love."

833
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:15,800
So he typed, you know,
"Anna and I are in love,

834
00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:19,560
and we've, you know,
we have a physical relationship,"

835
00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:23,520
I think John said something about,
you know, "Did you use protection?"

836
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:26,320
and DMan said, "Yes," and...

837
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:29,760
She said, "Yes, we have made love."

838
00:55:33,720 --> 00:55:36,760
And I was like, "What?"

839
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:39,200
"Yes, we've made love.

840
00:55:39,240 --> 00:55:42,600
He's a man
in every sense of the word."

841
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:48,280
And what I did, I sat on my hands...

842
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:53,240
..and I said, "You did what?"

843
00:55:56,760 --> 00:55:58,760
(INDISTINCT CHATTER)

844
00:55:59,720 --> 00:56:01,480
You know, they asked me

845
00:56:01,520 --> 00:56:03,960
about where things
were at with my husband,

846
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:06,120
and, you know, I told them

847
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:09,920
I really did wanna, you know, be
with DMan permanently to marry him,

848
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:12,440
that I hadn't talked
to my husband yet,

849
00:56:12,480 --> 00:56:16,000
but that I was
going to very soon, and...

850
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:18,240
There was a moment
as part of the conversation

851
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:22,240
where he asked me to kiss him,
I found that a little awkward.

852
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:25,800
Like, I didn't really
want to in that moment, just like...

853
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:28,720
You know, but he insisted, so I did.

854
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:30,280
(CLOCK TICKING)

855
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:31,960
I tried to be civil.

856
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:35,440
John had gone somewhere, and
I think he went down and threw up.

857
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:38,680
I was shocked.

858
00:56:38,720 --> 00:56:43,720
I didn't really know what
to make of it at the time, but...

859
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:46,280
I felt myself getting so angry...

860
00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:50,680
..and rage-filled that I left.

861
00:56:50,720 --> 00:56:53,960
I went downstairs.
I paced the floor a bunch of times.

862
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:56,360
I looked at the cracks in the wall.
I remember...

863
00:56:56,400 --> 00:56:58,280
I had to...

864
00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:01,200
let my anger subside.

865
00:57:02,560 --> 00:57:06,600
I said goodbye to DMan,
and Daisy was there, and she,

866
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:08,400
you know, came and gave me a big hug

867
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:10,280
and said, "You know,
we'll get through this.

868
00:57:10,320 --> 00:57:12,240
We'll figure this out."

869
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:15,160
I was heading out the door
and just saying goodbye to DMan.

870
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:18,840
I said, you know, I said to him,
like, "Good call, love, hon.

871
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:21,480
You know, hon,
it was a good choice to tell them."

872
00:57:21,520 --> 00:57:25,360
And then I left, and, you know,
I was feeling fine.

873
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:29,240
(BIRD CAWING)

874
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:33,200
John called me the next morning

875
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:36,000
about 10 o'clock
in the morning, and...

876
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:39,320
I think I knew something
was gonna be wrong

877
00:57:39,360 --> 00:57:41,360
when I saw he was calling.

878
00:57:42,680 --> 00:57:47,240
He said, "Daisy and I
don't want you to see DMan

879
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:51,360
until you, and she and I
have a chance to sit down and talk."

880
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,720
We sort of scheduled a meeting,
then she pulled out.

881
00:57:55,760 --> 00:57:58,960
Then John or Daisy got back to me

882
00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:01,080
and said, "You know what?
We just don't wanna meet."

883
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:04,640
That was when...
Then I started calling Daisy...

884
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,120
She would talk to me on the phone.

885
00:58:14,160 --> 00:58:18,120
I would kind of address her concerns
and talk about things.

886
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:45,360
And then she stopped
returning my calls.

887
00:59:14,440 --> 00:59:18,320
One of the things that happened
with the facilitated communication

888
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:22,080
was that part of the sessions
were for us, my mom and I,

889
00:59:22,120 --> 00:59:24,080
to also practise with him.

890
00:59:24,120 --> 00:59:27,400
And so Anna would be there with him,

891
00:59:27,440 --> 00:59:30,320
and you know,
a sentence will come out.

892
00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:33,960
"Alright, John, you try." So I would
try to, and I would get nothing.

893
00:59:34,000 --> 00:59:36,120
You know, eventually
he would apply pressure.

894
00:59:36,160 --> 00:59:38,280
I may get two words,
but it wouldn't make sense.

895
00:59:38,320 --> 00:59:40,520
And then when my mama tried,
nothing would happen.

896
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:44,080
See all these marks on my arm?
That was Derrick's facilitating.

897
00:59:44,880 --> 00:59:48,080
He would grab me and pull my hand,

898
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:50,200
you know,
take my hand away from his.

899
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:52,880
The coaching from Anna was,

900
00:59:52,920 --> 00:59:55,760
"You have to keep trying.
You have to keep practising.

901
00:59:55,800 --> 00:59:59,840
You have to anticipate
what he's gonna say."

902
00:59:59,880 --> 01:00:02,200
That was one of those like, "Hm?"

903
01:00:02,240 --> 01:00:06,040
That's when I guess
my own doubts started to creep in,

904
01:00:06,080 --> 01:00:07,960
and that's when I started looking

905
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:11,520
for the video that
I initially saw in the classroom

906
01:00:11,560 --> 01:00:15,560
to see, what in the world
am I doing wrong? Um...

907
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:20,400
And that's when I stumbled upon
the Frontline Documentary on FC.

908
01:00:25,400 --> 01:00:29,360
NARRATOR: Some people had doubts
about facilitated communication.

909
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:31,400
Dr Howard Shane has devoted his life

910
01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:34,840
to helping disabled
non-verbal people to communicate.

911
01:00:34,880 --> 01:00:37,280
MAN: You must be Dr Shane.
How are you?Great to meet you.

912
01:00:38,240 --> 01:00:40,280
In 1990, I got a call

913
01:00:40,320 --> 01:00:43,480
from a prosecutor
in Western Massachusetts

914
01:00:43,520 --> 01:00:45,800
because someone
was being facilitated,

915
01:00:45,840 --> 01:00:48,160
and while being facilitated,

916
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:51,760
he mentioned that his aid
in his group residence

917
01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:53,880
was sexually abusing him.

918
01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:57,440
And the prosecutor wanted to be sure

919
01:00:57,480 --> 01:01:01,840
that this individual was actually
independently communicating.

920
01:01:04,320 --> 01:01:06,280
When you have
somebody hold your hand,

921
01:01:06,320 --> 01:01:09,960
it obviously brings up
the question every time,

922
01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:12,600
"Well, are they being influenced?"

923
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:14,920
How can you be sure
that these individuals

924
01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:17,240
are actually, you know,
independently communicating?

925
01:01:17,280 --> 01:01:19,920
Or they aren't being facilitated
and really being influenced?

926
01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:28,560
I went on to design a protocol

927
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:31,200
that would enable me

928
01:01:31,240 --> 01:01:33,320
to determine
who was authoring the message.

929
01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:35,680
OK, folks,
what I'm gonna be doing now...

930
01:01:35,720 --> 01:01:38,560
Shane had devised
a double-blind test like this.

931
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:40,840
He showed both a series of pictures

932
01:01:40,880 --> 01:01:43,000
and asked them to type what they saw.

933
01:01:44,720 --> 01:01:46,360
Betsy, you sure you're looking at...

934
01:01:46,400 --> 01:01:49,880
When both Betsy and her facilitators
saw a picture of a key...

935
01:01:50,800 --> 01:01:55,000
..the letters K-E-Y were typed.

936
01:01:55,920 --> 01:01:58,200
But Shane wanted
to discover what happened

937
01:01:58,240 --> 01:02:00,440
if each saw a different picture.

938
01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:02,360
When Betsy saw a cup,

939
01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:05,440
she didn't type "cup",
she typed "hat",

940
01:02:05,480 --> 01:02:08,080
what the facilitator saw.

941
01:02:08,120 --> 01:02:10,600
Now take a look at this one, OK?

942
01:02:12,280 --> 01:02:14,480
When Betsy was shown
a picture of a dog,

943
01:02:14,520 --> 01:02:18,200
she didn't type "dog",
but "sneakers",

944
01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:20,920
what the facilitator saw.

945
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:23,200
OK, here's the next one.

946
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:25,920
Later work that
I did and others have done

947
01:02:25,960 --> 01:02:29,760
seems to indicate
that facilitators were doing this

948
01:02:29,800 --> 01:02:33,280
thinking they were giving people the
ability to be able to communicate.

949
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:37,360
I don't think
that they're intentionally

950
01:02:37,400 --> 01:02:39,640
trying to create a false message.

951
01:02:39,680 --> 01:02:42,560
They believe that
this is coming from the person

952
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:45,080
who's being facilitated.

953
01:02:45,120 --> 01:02:46,760
The scientific evidence suggested

954
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:49,840
that far from unlocking
the minds of autistic individuals,

955
01:02:49,880 --> 01:02:53,920
FC tapped the unconscious thoughts
of the facilitator.

956
01:02:57,480 --> 01:02:59,680
I just remember
thinking at the time,

957
01:02:59,720 --> 01:03:03,160
you know,
Derrick was writing those papers.

958
01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:06,160
What I find interesting,
in hindsight,

959
01:03:06,200 --> 01:03:09,480
is that a lot of it
revolved around this idea of...

960
01:03:09,520 --> 01:03:13,040
you know, "Now I have a voice.
Now I can speak and talk,"

961
01:03:13,080 --> 01:03:14,840
and, uh...

962
01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:19,040
"Whereas I was trapped,
now I have this freedom."

963
01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:22,320
And a lot of it
revolved around things

964
01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:25,600
that just, in my estimation,
were not...

965
01:03:26,960 --> 01:03:28,960
..about Derrick.

966
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:32,920
And so to me, it was just like
this whole FC thing is bogus.

967
01:03:35,960 --> 01:03:39,720
ANNA: I never got any vibe
off of John or Daisy

968
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:42,120
that they didn't 100% believe

969
01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:45,280
that what DMan said was DMan's words.

970
01:03:46,200 --> 01:03:49,080
I had been careful in the beginning

971
01:03:49,120 --> 01:03:52,000
to make sure
that I wasn't influencing him,

972
01:03:52,040 --> 01:03:56,120
but there were so many,
so many situations

973
01:03:56,160 --> 01:03:58,760
that he was telling me
information I didn't know.

974
01:03:58,800 --> 01:04:02,560
In the beginning, I was checking to
make sure that I wasn't influencing,

975
01:04:02,600 --> 01:04:05,840
and the fact that
we had arguments and disagreements,

976
01:04:05,880 --> 01:04:09,640
and so on, and so forth, I mean,
he very clearly had his own mind.

977
01:04:11,680 --> 01:04:13,200
He more than proved himself.

978
01:04:14,040 --> 01:04:16,800
The homework assignments
that DMan had typed

979
01:04:16,840 --> 01:04:18,760
with Sheronda,
and she hadn't read the books.

980
01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:23,320
I mean, had John come and talk to me,
I had all of this... proof

981
01:04:23,360 --> 01:04:25,640
that I could have shared with him
to reassure him.

982
01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:36,720
(BELLS TOLL)

983
01:05:37,560 --> 01:05:41,600
At the time, we weren't trying
to pursue any kind of legal thing.

984
01:05:41,640 --> 01:05:44,120
We just wanted to leave us alone.

985
01:05:44,160 --> 01:05:45,920
But then one day,

986
01:05:45,960 --> 01:05:49,920
the Director of Derrick's Day
programme got an email from Anna.

987
01:05:49,960 --> 01:05:52,160
And the gist of it was,

988
01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:55,360
"Daisy and John have not allowed me
to see Derrick,

989
01:05:55,400 --> 01:05:58,040
but Daisy and John don't know
what's in Derrick's best interest,

990
01:05:58,080 --> 01:06:01,520
but we, as people who work
with people with disabilities, do."

991
01:06:10,360 --> 01:06:12,480
And at that point,
I thought, "You know what?

992
01:06:12,520 --> 01:06:14,600
If she's gonna go
to these lengths to...

993
01:06:14,640 --> 01:06:17,120
try to get to Derrick
behind our back,

994
01:06:17,160 --> 01:06:19,320
there's no telling what she may do,

995
01:06:19,360 --> 01:06:22,080
and I need to take steps necessary
to put an end to this."

996
01:06:23,120 --> 01:06:26,840
And so I made an appointment
to meet with the Dean.

997
01:06:26,880 --> 01:06:28,800
I remember going into her office,

998
01:06:28,840 --> 01:06:32,880
and I started to tell her
what was going on.

999
01:06:32,920 --> 01:06:35,320
She kinda froze and was like...

1000
01:06:35,360 --> 01:06:38,360
took a deep breath
and was somewhat in disbelief.

1001
01:06:41,080 --> 01:06:44,320
I don't think I had
taken the opportunity to kind of...

1002
01:06:45,160 --> 01:06:48,040
..let myself release this emotion.

1003
01:06:48,080 --> 01:06:50,960
I was just sat in that office...
(CHUCKLES) ..and I don't think

1004
01:06:51,000 --> 01:06:54,560
I ever cried in front of a white
woman before, but I just broke down.

1005
01:06:54,600 --> 01:06:57,360
And she basically said to me,

1006
01:06:57,400 --> 01:07:00,680
in so many words,
"John, make sure you get a lawyer."

1007
01:07:00,720 --> 01:07:02,720
(LINE RINGING)

1008
01:07:23,360 --> 01:07:26,080
I got a phone call
one day from Daisy,

1009
01:07:26,120 --> 01:07:28,120
and she said...

1010
01:07:40,360 --> 01:07:43,720
She said, "He's been biting his hand
a lot more. He's really unhappy."

1011
01:07:43,760 --> 01:07:46,800
So she said,
"I'm just trying to understand

1012
01:07:46,840 --> 01:07:48,880
what happened
between the two of you."

1013
01:08:06,360 --> 01:08:08,680
(SERIOUS MUSIC)

1014
01:08:08,720 --> 01:08:10,440
To me, it sounded like,

1015
01:08:10,480 --> 01:08:13,880
"Oh, maybe this is an opening.
Maybe they're seeing he's unhappy,

1016
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:15,880
and they're reconsidering, and..."

1017
01:08:15,920 --> 01:08:19,200
so I was happy
to answer her questions.

1018
01:08:47,720 --> 01:08:50,279
You know, again, that feels
kinda weird to talk about with...

1019
01:08:50,319 --> 01:08:52,439
your lover's mother,

1020
01:08:52,479 --> 01:08:54,240
but, you know, whatever.

1021
01:08:54,279 --> 01:08:57,080
If it kept the conversation going,
and if she was listening...

1022
01:09:18,000 --> 01:09:20,160
I found out later that that was...

1023
01:09:20,200 --> 01:09:22,279
that phone call
had been set up by the police,

1024
01:09:22,319 --> 01:09:24,399
and they had coached
her on what to say,

1025
01:09:24,439 --> 01:09:27,080
and it was being recorded.

1026
01:09:27,120 --> 01:09:29,120
(DETECTIVE READS)

1027
01:09:42,800 --> 01:09:47,200
The crimes investigated are crimes
of the sexual assault nature.

1028
01:09:48,560 --> 01:09:50,560
(CAR ENGINE WHIRRING)

1029
01:09:54,440 --> 01:09:56,920
It was a Monday,

1030
01:09:56,960 --> 01:10:00,360
and I was teaching class
in the afternoon,

1031
01:10:00,400 --> 01:10:03,320
so I pulled into the parking lot,

1032
01:10:03,360 --> 01:10:08,280
and I was approached
by two people in plain clothes.

1033
01:10:08,320 --> 01:10:11,640
And they said, "We're with
the Essex County Prosecutor's Office,

1034
01:10:11,680 --> 01:10:13,560
and we need to ask you
some questions."

1035
01:10:13,600 --> 01:10:17,960
And the only thing I could think
of was something about a student.

1036
01:10:18,000 --> 01:10:20,000
(INDISTINCT RADIO CHATTER)

1037
01:10:20,040 --> 01:10:22,600
You know,
I'm wondering what's going on.

1038
01:10:22,640 --> 01:10:24,320
And then they said,

1039
01:10:24,360 --> 01:10:27,280
"Do you know
somebody named Derrick Johnson?"

1040
01:10:29,360 --> 01:10:30,600
I was like...

1041
01:10:32,240 --> 01:10:34,400
"OK," you know? And that was...

1042
01:10:34,440 --> 01:10:37,400
It's starting
to penetrate that, um...

1043
01:10:37,440 --> 01:10:39,800
"Wow, OK, this is..."

1044
01:10:39,840 --> 01:10:41,840
(FOREBODING MUSIC)

1045
01:10:44,360 --> 01:10:46,560
So then I had
to make a decision on the spot

1046
01:10:46,600 --> 01:10:48,800
about how much do I say.

1047
01:10:48,840 --> 01:10:51,640
But I figured, "You know what?
I didn't do anything wrong."

1048
01:10:52,480 --> 01:10:56,800
I talked to them for about two hours,
and I told them the whole story.

1049
01:10:56,840 --> 01:10:58,640
That we were in love
and all of that stuff.

1050
01:10:58,680 --> 01:11:00,600
I just didn't actually say the words,

1051
01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:02,840
you know,
"We consummated the relationship."

1052
01:11:04,520 --> 01:11:08,640
They drove me back
to the parking lot at Rutgers,

1053
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:11,920
and there was a person I didn't know,

1054
01:11:11,960 --> 01:11:16,920
who identified himself as a
representative of the Dean's Office.

1055
01:11:16,960 --> 01:11:20,160
He handed me a letter,
and the letter informed me

1056
01:11:20,200 --> 01:11:24,960
as of this moment, I was suspended
from my teaching duties at Rutgers,

1057
01:11:25,000 --> 01:11:27,120
I was not allowed on campus.

1058
01:11:29,960 --> 01:11:31,960
(MUSIC CONTINUES)

1059
01:11:41,080 --> 01:11:43,720
(SHUTTER CLICKING)

1060
01:11:43,760 --> 01:11:45,440
And while I was there,

1061
01:11:45,480 --> 01:11:48,320
they had gone to my house
with a search warrant.

1062
01:11:53,000 --> 01:11:56,000
My... now ex-husband was there,

1063
01:11:56,040 --> 01:12:00,480
so he's found out
that I'm under investigation.

1064
01:12:09,960 --> 01:12:11,960
(DISTANT SIRENS WAIL)

1065
01:12:14,280 --> 01:12:16,320
CHRISTINE: This is
Detective Christine McKowski

1066
01:12:16,360 --> 01:12:18,440
of the Essex County
Prosecutor's Office.

1067
01:13:07,040 --> 01:13:11,240
Today, we're conducting an interview
with Ms Karen Moore. Um...

1068
01:14:14,520 --> 01:14:16,520
(BIRDS CALLING)

1069
01:14:22,160 --> 01:14:24,160
(OARS CREAKING, WATER SLOSHING)

1070
01:14:27,240 --> 01:14:29,000
DR SHANE: I got a call
from my assistant

1071
01:14:29,040 --> 01:14:32,960
saying that the Special Victims Unit
in New Jersey was calling.

1072
01:14:34,720 --> 01:14:36,440
Asked me if I would be willing

1073
01:14:36,480 --> 01:14:38,720
provide some assistance as an
expert.

1074
01:14:45,240 --> 01:14:46,960
As it was described to me,

1075
01:14:47,000 --> 01:14:48,840
I'd never encountered any case

1076
01:14:48,880 --> 01:14:51,800
that mirrored these
particular circumstances.

1077
01:14:51,840 --> 01:14:53,360
I had never seen anything like it.

1078
01:14:53,400 --> 01:14:55,400
(PLANE ENGINE WHIRRING)

1079
01:14:59,520 --> 01:15:01,680
In this case,
the question to me was,

1080
01:15:01,720 --> 01:15:04,120
"Could you evaluate Derrick
to understand

1081
01:15:04,160 --> 01:15:06,680
his best level of communication?"

1082
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:09,840
From everything that I read,

1083
01:15:09,880 --> 01:15:13,000
there was a consistency
to the extent of his disability,

1084
01:15:13,040 --> 01:15:15,360
but I went in with an open mind.

1085
01:15:16,200 --> 01:15:19,480
I met him when he was brought
to the prosecutor's office.

1086
01:15:19,520 --> 01:15:22,320
He was accompanied
by his brother and his mother.

1087
01:15:23,520 --> 01:15:26,640
'I already knew that
he had no speech.'(PEN JOTTING)

1088
01:15:26,680 --> 01:15:29,480
So I proceeded

1089
01:15:29,520 --> 01:15:32,040
to introduce different types

1090
01:15:32,080 --> 01:15:34,600
of materials for him to indicate.

1091
01:15:34,640 --> 01:15:38,120
Pictures, photographs,
which are very realistic.

1092
01:15:38,160 --> 01:15:40,520
It was difficult for him, you know,

1093
01:15:40,560 --> 01:15:42,800
I really didn't get
very much from that.

1094
01:15:42,840 --> 01:15:46,160
He was able to pick up some objects,
but not when I said, you know,

1095
01:15:46,200 --> 01:15:48,880
"Pick up the spoon,"
or, "Pick up the cup."

1096
01:15:48,920 --> 01:15:52,280
I did an interview of his mother.

1097
01:15:52,320 --> 01:15:54,840
Based on everything
that she had observed,

1098
01:15:54,880 --> 01:15:56,840
and she certainly was
a very good observer,

1099
01:15:56,880 --> 01:16:00,400
I found that he was, you know,
functioning at a pretty low level.

1100
01:16:01,320 --> 01:16:04,040
His way of telling you
that he wanted something to eat

1101
01:16:04,080 --> 01:16:05,880
was he would scoot
over to the refrigerator

1102
01:16:05,920 --> 01:16:09,440
and tap on the refrigerator.
That's very functional.

1103
01:16:09,480 --> 01:16:13,080
But to move from that to pointing
to a picture of the refrigerator,

1104
01:16:13,120 --> 01:16:15,400
that's a greater level
of abstraction.

1105
01:16:15,440 --> 01:16:18,800
And in all the years he had been
in these different programmes,

1106
01:16:18,840 --> 01:16:20,840
he had never moved from the physical

1107
01:16:20,880 --> 01:16:22,920
to that type of communication.

1108
01:16:22,960 --> 01:16:24,960
(PENSIVE MUSIC)
(PEN JOTTING)

1109
01:16:27,720 --> 01:16:30,080
I spent two or three hours with him.

1110
01:16:31,400 --> 01:16:34,640
He spent a lot of time
just moving around the room.

1111
01:16:34,680 --> 01:16:37,640
He liked coat hangers,
so if he saw a coat hanger,

1112
01:16:37,680 --> 01:16:40,000
he would go over,
and he recognised that.

1113
01:16:40,040 --> 01:16:42,720
He liked to slap 'em on the floor.

1114
01:16:47,600 --> 01:16:50,040
So I just basically reported
what I found.

1115
01:17:07,120 --> 01:17:11,240
I made a determination
that what I was observing

1116
01:17:11,280 --> 01:17:15,360
was consistent with what
the medical record had indicated

1117
01:17:15,400 --> 01:17:18,320
for, you know,
over 20 years of his life.

1118
01:17:19,160 --> 01:17:21,560
There was no one in the 20 years

1119
01:17:21,600 --> 01:17:25,320
who saw some sparkling of,
you know, something different.

1120
01:17:44,960 --> 01:17:46,600
(SHUTTER CLICKS)

1121
01:17:46,640 --> 01:17:48,640
(SOMBRE MUSIC)

1122
01:18:57,840 --> 01:18:59,840
(PENSIVE MUSIC)

1123
01:19:06,960 --> 01:19:09,600
I was actually
looking forward to the trial

1124
01:19:09,640 --> 01:19:12,120
as finally,
this nightmare is gonna be over.

1125
01:19:12,160 --> 01:19:16,160
I knew she was not guilty
of anything.

1126
01:19:21,600 --> 01:19:24,200
ANNA: I'm not guilty

1127
01:19:24,240 --> 01:19:27,880
of what they were accusing me of.

1128
01:19:27,920 --> 01:19:30,400
If the accusation is

1129
01:19:30,440 --> 01:19:34,320
I have some weird perversion
that makes me

1130
01:19:34,360 --> 01:19:37,880
want to molest helpless,
intellectually impaired people...

1131
01:19:37,920 --> 01:19:40,640
(SHUTTERS CLICK, CROWD MURMURS)
'..that's simply not the case.'

1132
01:19:40,680 --> 01:19:42,680
(GAVEL BANGING)

1133
01:19:43,560 --> 01:19:46,040
This whole thing is framed

1134
01:19:46,080 --> 01:19:48,600
in terms of consent
and his ability to consent

1135
01:19:48,640 --> 01:19:51,160
because I'm the one
who's accused of assault.

1136
01:19:51,200 --> 01:19:54,800
It's all as if it was
all coming from me,

1137
01:19:54,840 --> 01:19:56,920
which is really not fair to him

1138
01:19:56,960 --> 01:19:59,120
because he seduced me,

1139
01:19:59,160 --> 01:20:02,080
and he deserves some credit for that.

1140
01:20:02,120 --> 01:20:05,280
Here's this guy
who's so physically impaired,

1141
01:20:05,320 --> 01:20:07,680
and he...

1142
01:20:07,720 --> 01:20:11,920
he got me to fall in love with him,
and with his words.

1143
01:20:24,800 --> 01:20:27,240
The judge kept taking things away

1144
01:20:27,280 --> 01:20:30,160
and taking things away
in terms of evidence.

1145
01:20:30,200 --> 01:20:33,200
I knew that DMan
was the author of what he typed.

1146
01:20:33,240 --> 01:20:37,000
I wasn't influencing him,
but at the end of the day,

1147
01:20:37,040 --> 01:20:39,520
I didn't have anything
except my word for that.

1148
01:20:39,560 --> 01:20:41,760
(WIND SOUGHS GENTLY)
(BIRDS CHIRPING)

1149
01:20:43,120 --> 01:20:45,400
(DISTANT SIRENS WAIL)

1150
01:20:45,440 --> 01:20:48,000
There was a morning,
the prosecutor said,

1151
01:20:48,040 --> 01:20:50,520
"We're gonna bring DMan
into the courtroom."

1152
01:20:50,560 --> 01:20:51,960
(DOOR OPENS)

1153
01:20:52,000 --> 01:20:54,480
It was Daisy who walked him in.

1154
01:20:54,520 --> 01:20:56,440
(SHUTTERS CLICKING)

1155
01:20:56,480 --> 01:20:58,920
DAISY: I had to say who he was.

1156
01:20:58,960 --> 01:21:01,400
And, you know, I was his mother.

1157
01:21:01,440 --> 01:21:05,680
And the fact that he could not
walk by himself independently,

1158
01:21:05,720 --> 01:21:07,440
I just walked him

1159
01:21:07,480 --> 01:21:11,160
in front of the judge
and then around by the jury stand.

1160
01:21:12,360 --> 01:21:15,000
It was horrifying to me

1161
01:21:15,040 --> 01:21:19,560
that a human being had been
basically made an exhibit.

1162
01:21:20,760 --> 01:21:24,720
I know with DMan,
there are ways of walking with him

1163
01:21:24,760 --> 01:21:27,680
in which he looks less handicapped,

1164
01:21:27,720 --> 01:21:29,760
and his mother walked him in

1165
01:21:29,800 --> 01:21:33,440
in a way that made him
look as handicapped

1166
01:21:33,480 --> 01:21:37,600
and incapable
as one could possibly manage.

1167
01:21:37,640 --> 01:21:39,720
She turned around again,
and she turned

1168
01:21:39,760 --> 01:21:43,200
always putting her body
in between him and... me,

1169
01:21:43,240 --> 01:21:45,800
and walked him out.

1170
01:22:33,160 --> 01:22:35,160
(GAVEL BANGING)

1171
01:22:51,400 --> 01:22:53,520
What we didn't have
on the jury was anyone

1172
01:22:53,560 --> 01:22:58,000
with significant physical
disabilities or that understanding

1173
01:22:58,040 --> 01:23:00,920
of a disability rights perspective
on the whole case.

1174
01:23:02,840 --> 01:23:05,560
At the end of the day, it was just...

1175
01:23:05,600 --> 01:23:09,280
be myself and tell my story, and...

1176
01:23:09,320 --> 01:23:12,720
hopefully, the jury would see
that guy over there

1177
01:23:12,760 --> 01:23:16,760
is this wonderful, intelligent man
who I was in love with.

1178
01:24:14,880 --> 01:24:18,960
NICK: Was there any moment, either
during your time with Derrick,

1179
01:24:19,000 --> 01:24:21,200
or during the trial, or now,

1180
01:24:21,240 --> 01:24:24,360
where you had doubts about what
might have occurred between you two?

1181
01:24:24,400 --> 01:24:26,800
Never.

1182
01:24:26,840 --> 01:24:29,240
(DISTANT SIRENS WAIL)
(TRAFFIC WHIRRING)

1183
01:24:38,880 --> 01:24:43,200
DAISY: Her attorney came, and
he was making me to be the villain.

1184
01:24:44,320 --> 01:24:47,280
And he said, "Well, how do you feel

1185
01:24:47,320 --> 01:24:50,080
about her being his lover?"

1186
01:24:50,120 --> 01:24:53,960
I said, "No."
I said, "She's not his lover."

1187
01:24:56,880 --> 01:25:00,120
This whore done laid down,
raped my son,

1188
01:25:00,160 --> 01:25:04,080
and I had to compose myself
because...

1189
01:25:07,400 --> 01:25:09,400
..that's my son.

1190
01:25:13,720 --> 01:25:17,640
Days and nights,
I walked through hospital corridors

1191
01:25:17,680 --> 01:25:20,760
not knowing
what was wrong with my son,

1192
01:25:20,800 --> 01:25:23,120
not knowing his medical condition,

1193
01:25:23,160 --> 01:25:25,240
him having seizures.

1194
01:25:25,280 --> 01:25:27,560
And for that moment,

1195
01:25:27,600 --> 01:25:30,160
I almost lost it.

1196
01:25:30,200 --> 01:25:32,200
I did.

1197
01:25:33,360 --> 01:25:35,360
I really did.

1198
01:25:38,120 --> 01:25:40,240
Because who does that?

1199
01:25:43,840 --> 01:25:45,840
Who does that?

1200
01:25:48,400 --> 01:25:50,400
And then go criticise me.

1201
01:25:53,560 --> 01:25:56,360
Make me look like I'm... I'm nobody,

1202
01:25:56,400 --> 01:25:58,400
I don't understand.

1203
01:25:59,920 --> 01:26:01,920
Who does that?

1204
01:26:06,680 --> 01:26:11,160
JOHN: I don't think that
Anna Stubblefield truly recognised

1205
01:26:11,200 --> 01:26:13,760
how she devalued my brother

1206
01:26:13,800 --> 01:26:15,800
and also devalued my family.

1207
01:26:17,080 --> 01:26:19,080
It's one thing to...

1208
01:26:21,360 --> 01:26:24,400
..hear Anna Stubblefield say,
"Derrick and I love each other."

1209
01:26:24,440 --> 01:26:26,600
Just like...

1210
01:26:26,640 --> 01:26:31,320
But as the details of what
actually transpired unfold,

1211
01:26:31,360 --> 01:26:33,760
that she was in her office,

1212
01:26:33,800 --> 01:26:35,760
she had this mat on the floor.

1213
01:26:35,800 --> 01:26:38,800
And then you recall
that moment or that day

1214
01:26:38,840 --> 01:26:40,800
where I was changing
Derrick's diaper,

1215
01:26:40,840 --> 01:26:43,040
and I saw these abrasions
on his back.

1216
01:26:44,400 --> 01:26:48,120
Strawberries, like somebody's
dragging you across the floor.

1217
01:26:48,160 --> 01:26:52,640
And we couldn't figure out where
the heck these things came from.

1218
01:26:52,680 --> 01:26:55,120
We called the school.
"Did Derrick fall down?

1219
01:26:55,160 --> 01:26:57,840
Did something happen at the school?
Did somebody hit my brother?"

1220
01:26:57,880 --> 01:27:00,360
They're like, "No, nothing happened.
We don't know."

1221
01:27:00,400 --> 01:27:03,400
Prosecutor's trying
to figure out what happened.
The story comes out, "Oh!

1222
01:27:03,440 --> 01:27:05,600
Something happened in the office."

1223
01:27:05,640 --> 01:27:09,360
And, I mean,
this woman, 140, 150 pounds,

1224
01:27:09,400 --> 01:27:12,240
I don't know how much she weighed,
but she's much heavier than him.

1225
01:27:12,280 --> 01:27:14,720
Derrick is slight. He's 5'3", 5'4".

1226
01:27:14,760 --> 01:27:17,440
And she was exerting
so much force on him

1227
01:27:17,480 --> 01:27:21,000
that his back
was being drug across this mat,

1228
01:27:21,040 --> 01:27:23,040
and it was leaving scars.

1229
01:27:24,840 --> 01:27:26,840
(EXHALES DEEPLY, TAPPING LEG)

1230
01:27:41,920 --> 01:27:44,520
That woman did not give a damn
about my brother.

1231
01:27:45,840 --> 01:27:47,840
(SOMBRE MUSIC)

1232
01:27:54,640 --> 01:27:57,440
I didn't think
I was gonna be convicted,

1233
01:27:57,480 --> 01:27:59,640
but I wear contacts,

1234
01:27:59,680 --> 01:28:02,680
and that morning
when the jury came back,

1235
01:28:02,720 --> 01:28:08,000
I did put my glasses in my purse.

1236
01:28:08,040 --> 01:28:10,800
It was my one little concession to.

1237
01:28:10,840 --> 01:28:14,680
If I ended up in prison,
I needed my glasses.

1238
01:28:17,240 --> 01:28:19,400
SANDI: I think by the time

1239
01:28:19,440 --> 01:28:21,440
the verdict actually came...

1240
01:28:23,120 --> 01:28:25,120
..I was expecting it.

1241
01:28:27,880 --> 01:28:30,920
When the jury read the conviction,

1242
01:28:30,960 --> 01:28:33,120
I started saying out loud
to the judge,

1243
01:28:33,160 --> 01:28:36,000
"Just please let me
take care of my daughter.

1244
01:28:36,040 --> 01:28:39,200
Just please let me
take care of my daughter."

1245
01:29:15,440 --> 01:29:17,720
Never doubted her.

1246
01:29:17,760 --> 01:29:20,120
No, not for an instant.

1247
01:29:21,840 --> 01:29:26,840
I mean, I watched her interact
with people her whole life,

1248
01:29:26,880 --> 01:29:28,880
and she is...

1249
01:29:31,760 --> 01:29:34,560
..as compassionate a person
as I've ever known.

1250
01:29:36,400 --> 01:29:40,120
And there's no way,
I mean, she's never harmed anybody.

1251
01:29:41,640 --> 01:29:44,840
And there's certainly no way
she would've harmed a man.

1252
01:29:45,760 --> 01:29:49,360
Do you think she believed
that he was typing?

1253
01:29:49,400 --> 01:29:51,720
Yeah, in her wicked mind.

1254
01:29:52,640 --> 01:29:54,320
In her wicked mind.

1255
01:30:00,640 --> 01:30:03,360
(DOOR OPENS)

1256
01:30:03,400 --> 01:30:05,600
(SHUTTERS CLICKING)

1257
01:30:06,720 --> 01:30:07,960
(GAVEL BANGING)

1258
01:30:08,000 --> 01:30:10,640
JUDGE: State versus
Marjorie Anna Stubblefield,

1259
01:30:10,680 --> 01:30:13,800
indictment number 13-1-44.

1260
01:30:14,680 --> 01:30:17,960
We are here today for the sentencing
of Marjorie Anna Stubblefield.

1261
01:30:21,560 --> 01:30:23,760
Yes, Your Honour.
The victim's brother, John Johnson,

1262
01:30:23,800 --> 01:30:26,440
would like to address the court,
his mother would like to approach

1263
01:30:26,480 --> 01:30:28,400
and stand with him
while he addresses the court.

1264
01:30:28,440 --> 01:30:30,440
That's fine.

1265
01:30:33,400 --> 01:30:35,160
JOHN: Good afternoon, Your Honour.

1266
01:30:35,200 --> 01:30:37,400
Good afternoon.
(CLEARS THROAT)

1267
01:30:37,440 --> 01:30:39,320
Thirty-four years ago, doctors said

1268
01:30:39,360 --> 01:30:42,240
my brother would not live
to see his third birthday.

1269
01:30:42,280 --> 01:30:45,920
Those doctors
and the devil are liars.

1270
01:30:45,960 --> 01:30:49,200
My brother since then has grown
to become a loving person.

1271
01:30:49,240 --> 01:30:53,040
He is a beautiful brother,
and he is a beautiful son.

1272
01:30:53,080 --> 01:30:56,800
I don't think Anna understood the
depth of pain she caused my family.

1273
01:30:56,840 --> 01:30:59,280
She tried to lay claim to him
and rename him.

1274
01:31:00,440 --> 01:31:02,920
She tried
to supplant Derrick's life,

1275
01:31:02,960 --> 01:31:05,040
a life steeped...

1276
01:31:05,080 --> 01:31:07,320
Go ahead.
(BREATHING HEAVILY)

1277
01:31:11,360 --> 01:31:13,600
Take your time.

1278
01:31:13,800 --> 01:31:15,720
Take your time.

1279
01:31:15,760 --> 01:31:17,560
..a life steeped
in the history and culture

1280
01:31:17,600 --> 01:31:22,520
of his God-fearing, southern-rooted
African-American family.

1281
01:31:22,560 --> 01:31:24,760
She tried to supplant that
with some version of life

1282
01:31:24,800 --> 01:31:26,640
she thought was better.

1283
01:31:26,680 --> 01:31:29,280
We need to disenchant ourselves
from the notion

1284
01:31:29,320 --> 01:31:32,080
that Anna Stubblefield
is some tragic "shero".

1285
01:31:32,120 --> 01:31:35,520
Anna is not Sandra Bullock,
and this is not The Blind Side.

1286
01:31:35,560 --> 01:31:37,880
Derrick is not some
poor Black kid from the ghetto

1287
01:31:37,920 --> 01:31:39,920
that needs someone to save him.

1288
01:31:40,720 --> 01:31:43,960
An able-bodied woman
raped a disabled young man

1289
01:31:44,000 --> 01:31:46,080
that could not consent to sex.

1290
01:31:46,120 --> 01:31:48,680
You were wrong, Anna.
You committed a crime.

1291
01:31:48,720 --> 01:31:51,080
There is no grey area. In closing,

1292
01:31:51,120 --> 01:31:54,360
thank Your Honour for helping
bring this ordeal to a close.

1293
01:32:00,960 --> 01:32:02,680
JUDGE: I have read
and received letters

1294
01:32:02,720 --> 01:32:05,160
from the former husband
of the defendant,

1295
01:32:05,200 --> 01:32:09,360
who wrote a very compelling
impact statement.

1296
01:32:09,400 --> 01:32:13,640
"I believe that Anna is
a pathological liar and narcissist.

1297
01:32:13,680 --> 01:32:18,040
She will stop at nothing to fool
the court and seek vindication

1298
01:32:18,080 --> 01:32:21,000
regardless of the emotional
and financial expense

1299
01:32:21,040 --> 01:32:24,280
to her family
or the primary victim's family.

1300
01:32:24,320 --> 01:32:26,080
Clearly, I am distraught,

1301
01:32:26,120 --> 01:32:29,120
but this and the impact
on my immediate family,

1302
01:32:29,160 --> 01:32:32,800
I leave it to the wisdom of the
court to determine a just sentence."

1303
01:32:36,000 --> 01:32:38,000
Ms Stubblefield, please stand.

1304
01:32:43,360 --> 01:32:45,360
As to count one,

1305
01:32:45,400 --> 01:32:48,000
first-degree
aggravated sexual assault,

1306
01:32:48,040 --> 01:32:52,080
where the victim was physically
helpless or mentally incapacitated,

1307
01:32:52,120 --> 01:32:55,520
I sentence you to 12 years
in New Jersey State Prison.

1308
01:32:56,320 --> 01:32:59,040
As to count two, I sentence you

1309
01:32:59,080 --> 01:33:03,200
to 12 years New Jersey State Prison
concurrent with count one.

1310
01:33:04,040 --> 01:33:05,800
After you are released from prison,

1311
01:33:05,840 --> 01:33:09,280
you are placed on parole supervision
for life.(GAVEL BANGS)

1312
01:33:09,320 --> 01:33:11,240
(SHUTTERS CLICKING)

1313
01:33:11,280 --> 01:33:13,280
(ATTENDEES MURMUR)

1314
01:33:30,680 --> 01:33:32,680
(BIRD CAWING)

1315
01:33:35,480 --> 01:33:37,800
DR SHANE: I never thought
that she was a predator.

1316
01:33:39,320 --> 01:33:41,800
She truly believed
that what she was doing

1317
01:33:41,840 --> 01:33:44,360
was in Derrick's best interest.

1318
01:33:45,240 --> 01:33:48,080
She thought that
he deserves the opportunity

1319
01:33:48,120 --> 01:33:51,560
to have a life outside of,
you know, living with his mother.

1320
01:33:52,560 --> 01:33:55,280
But I think that given
what I observed,

1321
01:33:55,320 --> 01:33:57,200
and what I learned from his record,

1322
01:33:57,240 --> 01:34:00,400
I think that it would've been
a false life with Anna.

1323
01:34:02,240 --> 01:34:04,920
I think that
she was a unfortunate victim

1324
01:34:04,960 --> 01:34:08,480
of methodology
that's very problematic.

1325
01:34:10,520 --> 01:34:13,120
However, she interpreted
what was going on,

1326
01:34:13,160 --> 01:34:15,840
whether she actually
had those conversations with him,

1327
01:34:15,880 --> 01:34:18,480
I don't know. But she...
you know, from my perspective,

1328
01:34:18,520 --> 01:34:21,440
she was having conversations
with herself.

1329
01:34:21,480 --> 01:34:23,760
Um, and, you know...

1330
01:34:23,800 --> 01:34:26,960
(STAMMERS) I don't know
where to even go with that.

1331
01:34:48,200 --> 01:34:50,120
(CAR ENGINE WHIRRING)

1332
01:35:28,080 --> 01:35:30,960
ANNA:
When I first came out of prison,

1333
01:35:31,000 --> 01:35:33,200
I managed to pick up
a waitressing job,

1334
01:35:33,240 --> 01:35:36,520
and then there was some publicity
around when I did the plea bargain

1335
01:35:36,560 --> 01:35:38,280
and I was sentenced, and...

1336
01:35:38,320 --> 01:35:42,080
one of their customers complained,
and so they let me go.

1337
01:35:42,120 --> 01:35:44,760
So I was doing that kind of thing

1338
01:35:44,800 --> 01:35:47,120
for the first year.

1339
01:35:47,160 --> 01:35:50,240
And then I do have,

1340
01:35:50,280 --> 01:35:53,920
you know, what's now
kind of part-time work.

1341
01:35:53,960 --> 01:35:57,000
I'm working at home, nobody knows me.

1342
01:35:57,040 --> 01:36:00,160
And so, you know, that's OK,

1343
01:36:00,200 --> 01:36:02,200
but it's not teaching.

1344
01:36:03,480 --> 01:36:06,360
That was my whole identity.
That was everything.

1345
01:36:08,320 --> 01:36:10,320
(KNIFE THUDDING SOFTLY)

1346
01:36:13,440 --> 01:36:17,680
I don't know what
DMan's life is like now, um...

1347
01:36:18,720 --> 01:36:20,560
As far as his mother and brother,

1348
01:36:20,600 --> 01:36:23,120
I think they had to really decide

1349
01:36:23,160 --> 01:36:25,240
that he wasn't intelligent,

1350
01:36:25,280 --> 01:36:28,720
and he wasn't typing,
and it was all a fraud and a hoax.

1351
01:36:30,600 --> 01:36:33,800
A friend of mine,
who is another... somebody else

1352
01:36:33,840 --> 01:36:35,680
who uses facilitated communication,

1353
01:36:35,720 --> 01:36:39,640
who knew DMan
and was friends with DMan, um...

1354
01:36:39,680 --> 01:36:42,680
He said, "Look, if I was DMan,

1355
01:36:42,720 --> 01:36:45,080
I would rather have...

1356
01:36:45,120 --> 01:36:49,000
had the relationship with you
and lost it

1357
01:36:49,040 --> 01:36:52,080
than never to have had it
in the first place."

1358
01:36:52,120 --> 01:36:54,440
So I hope that he's right.

1359
01:36:54,480 --> 01:36:56,840
You know, um, but...

1360
01:36:58,160 --> 01:37:00,160
(SOFTLY) Yeah.

1361
01:37:01,000 --> 01:37:03,000
(BIRDS CHIRPING)

1362
01:37:06,200 --> 01:37:08,200
(DOG BARKING)

1363
01:37:11,320 --> 01:37:13,960
People don't think
that there was damage done.

1364
01:37:14,000 --> 01:37:16,560
Yes, there was.

1365
01:37:16,600 --> 01:37:18,600
And it's still going on.

1366
01:37:20,440 --> 01:37:22,440
I had to put him on medication.

1367
01:37:23,560 --> 01:37:25,560
Because he...

1368
01:37:26,360 --> 01:37:28,360
..masturbates.

1369
01:37:29,360 --> 01:37:31,000
He has this urge,

1370
01:37:31,040 --> 01:37:34,240
and, you know, it's like a itch
that he can't scratch.

1371
01:37:34,280 --> 01:37:36,920
And it's hard enough to give him...

1372
01:37:36,960 --> 01:37:38,720
a life

1373
01:37:38,760 --> 01:37:40,800
without him going through that.

1374
01:37:41,640 --> 01:37:43,640
And she did that.

1375
01:37:45,000 --> 01:37:49,000
Because if you don't ever strike
that match or do whatever,

1376
01:37:49,040 --> 01:37:50,840
how will you ever know?

1377
01:37:50,880 --> 01:37:52,840
There we go.

1378
01:37:56,400 --> 01:37:58,800
Showing all your muscles, huh?

1379
01:37:58,840 --> 01:38:00,840
You good?

1380
01:38:01,960 --> 01:38:04,480
Ready?

1381
01:38:04,520 --> 01:38:06,800
'One of the tough things
about this whole process

1382
01:38:06,840 --> 01:38:09,240
is that there was this idea

1383
01:38:09,280 --> 01:38:12,320
that, "Oh, he can do
all these wonderful things."

1384
01:38:15,560 --> 01:38:17,760
And then to have to...

1385
01:38:17,800 --> 01:38:20,080
Looking at everything
that was taking place,

1386
01:38:20,120 --> 01:38:23,120
then say... that he can't.'

1387
01:38:23,160 --> 01:38:25,040
You got the walk right there,
haven't you?

1388
01:38:27,200 --> 01:38:29,080
Alright.

1389
01:38:29,120 --> 01:38:30,760
In a sense I kinda felt as though

1390
01:38:30,800 --> 01:38:33,720
I was diminishing his value.
"Yeah, Derrick can't do that."

1391
01:38:33,760 --> 01:38:35,960
Pick 'em up and put 'em down.

1392
01:38:36,000 --> 01:38:37,800
Pick 'em up.

1393
01:38:37,840 --> 01:38:41,320
'Going through that process
of having to recognise that,

1394
01:38:41,360 --> 01:38:44,600
"Damn, yeah, he is really disabled."
And that's fine.'

1395
01:38:45,960 --> 01:38:49,280
He can't do all other things
that other people can do.

1396
01:38:49,320 --> 01:38:52,880
And that's perfectly fine because
we're gonna be alright regardless.

1397
01:38:54,360 --> 01:38:57,160
OK. (LAUGHS)

1398
01:38:59,200 --> 01:39:01,200
Oh, you gonna show them that smile?

1399
01:39:02,880 --> 01:39:05,520
Yeah, say, "Here I am."

1400
01:39:05,560 --> 01:39:09,640
The psychiatrist determined
that Derrick was deemed

1401
01:39:09,680 --> 01:39:13,840
incapable and incompetent
of taking care of himself.

1402
01:39:13,880 --> 01:39:15,880
Well, I knew.

1403
01:39:16,880 --> 01:39:18,520
I knew.

1404
01:39:18,560 --> 01:39:22,480
And knowing and accepting it,

1405
01:39:22,520 --> 01:39:26,400
and just embrace him.
Just love him for who he is.

1406
01:39:27,440 --> 01:39:29,680
No matter what or how...

1407
01:39:31,720 --> 01:39:34,360
..strong he gets,
he's still my child.

1408
01:39:34,400 --> 01:39:38,080
He will always have
that younger mindset.

1409
01:39:38,120 --> 01:39:40,520
And I, you know, he's 40 years old,

1410
01:39:40,560 --> 01:39:43,840
and that's where we are.

1411
01:39:45,600 --> 01:39:47,600
(PENSIVE MUSIC)

1412
01:39:54,120 --> 01:39:56,920
You OK?
(VOCALISING)

1413
01:39:57,720 --> 01:40:00,840
And I don't love him no less,
and I don't love him no more.

1414
01:40:00,880 --> 01:40:02,640
He's my baby.

1415
01:40:02,680 --> 01:40:06,160
He... is my baby.

1416
01:40:09,760 --> 01:40:11,760
Go ahead.

1417
01:40:19,320 --> 01:40:21,320
(MUSIC INTENSIFIES)

1418
01:40:55,960 --> 01:40:58,960
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